People-pleasing: The real truth of who you really are

Apr 20, 2025 | Articles

(5 minutes read time) Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. (1938–2012), best known for her powerful book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, spoke to something many of us sense deep down but struggle to live out. For those trapped in the fawn response—those who’ve learned to survive by...

Why CBT Isn’t Working: Trauma Beyond the Mind

Apr 20, 2025 | Articles

(5 minutes read time) “I nearly jumped out of my skin.” When analysed, this idiom or saying, is what I describe as taking yourself out of your body because it seems like an unsafe place to be. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is widely regarded as a...

Marriage: Survival of the fittest

Dec 26, 2024 | Read and Listen

These days, the old ways of doing relationships just don’t work like they used to. Traditional marriage roles—where one person provides and the other keeps things running at home—don’t fit with how life and love work now. People want more than just a partner who ticks...

Not good enough: Is it true?

May 3, 2024 | Articles

Many people carry the painful belief: “I’m not good enough.”It’s one of the most common struggles I see in my counselling room, and it has a deep impact on self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being. But here’s the truth: this feeling didn’t appear from...