People-pleasing: The real truth of who you really are

(5 minutes read time) Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. (1938–2012), best known for her powerful book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, spoke to something many of us sense deep down but struggle to live out. For those trapped in the fawn response—those who’ve learned to survive by...

Why CBT Isn’t Working: Trauma Beyond the Mind

(5 minutes read time) “I nearly jumped out of my skin.” When analysed, this idiom or saying, is what I describe as taking yourself out of your body because it seems like an unsafe place to be. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is widely regarded as a...

Marriage: Survival of the fittest

These days, the old ways of doing relationships just don’t work like they used to. Traditional marriage roles—where one person provides and the other keeps things running at home—don’t fit with how life and love work now. People want more than just a partner who ticks...