Are you feeling exhausted, drained, feeling older than your friends and colleagues that are single or in second or fresher relationships?
Are you starting to resent your partner and wonder why this has happened to you both?
Think back for a moment. Did you see your mother take responsibility for your father, for the household, and for the relationship itself?
And now, as an adult, do you notice yourself doing something similar?
Perhaps you’re the one who organises everything, carries the weight, and makes sure life keeps moving—doing everything except washing the car and putting the bins out.
If that feels familiar, pause and ask yourself: Who is choosing this life for me?
Because you do have a choice. You can continue as things are, or you can decide to step into a relationship of equality—yes, even with the same man you’ve been with for years. Relationships can evolve. Old roles that were once agreed upon don’t have to stay fixed forever. Society has changed, and your relationship can catch up too.
Are you simply sticking with “the devil you know?”
Now, the good news …
Longevity means you give yourselves permission to start fresh. To begin again. To create something new together.
If you are 40, 50, 60, this is now mid-life. You have plenty of time for change.
Making changes
Counselling can help with this. It gives you space to look at your boundaries, to practice saying no, and to experiment with new ways of being together. Change really is possible. And if, through this process, your relationship doesn’t hold up, then you will at least walk away knowing you tried. You’ll also walk away clearer about what you do want as you move forward.
And if you discover the relationship has reached its natural end, yes—that may feel sad. But it doesn’t mean your life is over. Far from it.
If you’re in your forties, fifties, or sixties, this next part of your life is the free part. The second half of life is just beginning, and you have every chance to shape it in a way that feels good, equal, and deeply yours.
This is great news!
How counselling can help
I will offer a safe space in which to explore your feelings and find out where you are in your process and what you want for yourself. We can look at all the reasons why you want change and how to get it. If you are feeling stuck and it is all getting to be an exhausting routine and you are not enjoying life any more, that is the sign that you need to make changes. We will form a therapeutic relationship where you gain strength and direction to do something about your life.
Are you ready to talk?
I offer a low-cost confidential service. I offer space to speak, find your voice, be really heard and validated. I am a trained professional counsellor who specialises in anxiety and trauma. Make an appointment to meet me and tell me what you want from counselling. See if you feel comfortable. The first session is over Zoom for both of our safety and then you can do sessions over Zoom from your own home or in person in mine, in my safe, comfortable therapy room.
Book your appointment today
Click the button to book a free initial consultation with me today. Read what people are saying about working with me in counselling here. I hold a private, confidential space for you. I’m looking forward to meeting you and hearing you very soon. Best wishes, Karen.
Disclaimer: I am a UK qualified person centred counsellor specialising in anxiety and trauma within the context of counselling. I write from my experiences and from my client work in counselling. My work is dependent on the therapeutic relationship and the meeting of two minds. It is a humbling experience and that is all part of the healing process that I witness every day. It is the best job in the world. This is not an emergency service. If you need to speak to someone urgently outside of my sessions, please call the Samaritans on 116 123 (24/7 confidential helpline in the UK).
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