Darkest emotions are needed for survival

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”― Carl Gustav Jung All Feelings Are for Survival – Even the Ones We’re Ashamed Of We live in a world that often tells us to “be positive,” “stay...

Alcohol: Time to stop lying.

Is the world is lying to us? (5 minutes reading time) You Are Not the Problem If you’re in recovery or choosing not to drink, and you feel like the odd one out—you’re not. You’re not damaged, broken, or behind. You’re ahead. You’re awake. You’re doing what healthy...

When the Mind Fragments to Survive: DID and Trauma

(5 minutes read time) (Trigger warning: Alchohol abuse, domestic abuse, sexual abuse and sexual violence and suicide combined DUI). As a counsellor and hypnotherapist, I’ve worked for years with clients navigating trauma, dissociation, and inner fragmentation. I...

Finding your voice: Speaking out for your silenced inner child

(5 minutes reading time) This article was inspired by Ricky Gervais.He said: “I will never stop making my voice heard, because they can’t.” Gervais was talking about animals.And it struck me—This is true of our children too. So many of them couldn’t speak, weren’t...

Why CBT Isn’t Working: Trauma Beyond the Mind

(5 minutes read time) “I nearly jumped out of my skin.” When analysed, this idiom or saying, is what I describe as taking yourself out of your body because it seems like an unsafe place to be. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is widely regarded as a...

Fear of equality: Race and hate crimes and misogyny.

(4 minutes read time) “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” ― Margaret Atwood Religious expression, particularly when it comes to women choosing to cover up, such as wearing the hijab or other modest clothing,...