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Were you born in the 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s?

Were you born in the 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s?

This article explores how those days were accepting of what we now know to be unacceptable behaviour and how family members still use inappropriate language which prevents victims of abuse getting the support and help they need to heal and overcome their trauma. The language used by professionals...

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Ignore that sad, scared child at your peril

Oh no, not that corker! Going into childhood and feelings, I hear you groan. Every single human has a child within. The child within feels sad, lost, lonely, angry, scared. The child is you, halted in time, in the process that is your life. There was an event in your life that you were unable to...

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Has your religion impacted your self esteem?

In this article I attempt to help you see that your upbringing is highly likely to have informed how you feel about yourself today. It is impossible for it not to have. I am interested (in the work I do), about just how many people struggle with low self esteem and I would say that it is most...

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Relationship: Do you love yourself enough?

This short article is a snippet from a case study, which I hope to provide insight into common beliefs. What do you believe about yourself that you are taking into your relationships? For this example, it was a man and a woman. Where do your beliefs come from? Loving yourself first That old...

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Addiction cycle and the therapeutic relationship

The addiction cycle 1. Trigger: This phase represents the events, emotions, or situations that trigger the urge to use substances. Triggers can include stress, trauma, peer pressure or environmental cues, being around others using and remembering the high. 2. Craving: Following a trigger, you...

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Turning Wounds into Wisdom

This article is about "the shadow" which is from Jungian theory. The concept of the ‘shadow’ in psychology involves recognising and integrating the parts of ourselves that we have repressed or denied. These hidden aspects often stem from childhood experiences, cultural and religious conditioning...

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Anger

I have learned, from working with hundreds of people all over the world, that they are angry and often they don’t know they are angry.  This is because the anger has been disowned as a child, or at any age, possibly as a result of trauma, maybe you were not allowed to display anger growing...

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Resentment

Resentment is a form of anger. It is personal because someone hurt you personally.  You felt unsafe because your personal boundaries were not respected.  The person responsible for making you unsafe by their actions is the perpetrator. Resentment is holding on to anger. Holding on to...

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Understanding Consent in the Context of Vulnerability

Vulnerable adults, including those with disabilities, mental health conditions, or cognitive impairments, may face unique challenges when it comes to giving consent in various situations, including medical treatment, personal care and intimate relationships. Understanding how to navigate consent...

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Abuse in various forms

Forms of abuse encompass a range of behaviours aimed at exerting power and control over another person. Some common forms include: 1. Physical Abuse: Involves causing bodily harm or injury through actions like hitting, punching, or restraining. 2. Emotional/Verbal Abuse: Involves using words,...

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