Articles
Religion and other traditions
If you are concerned about counselling, bearing truth, exposing yourself and feeling bad, it might come from your religious or cultural background. It may be taught literally or you may think in a literal way from learning throughout your life, when teaching was sharp, harsh and strict...
Relationship
This article is a snippet from a case study. I don't do couple's counselling so this is to provide insight into common beliefs that often create unhealthy dynamics in relationship. I use the masculine and feminine theory and so you can apply it to same sex couples if you can identify who it...
Addiction cycle and the therapeutic relationship
The addiction cycle 1. Trigger: This phase represents the events, emotions, or situations that trigger the urge to use substances. Triggers can include stress, trauma, peer pressure or environmental cues, being around others using and remembering the high. 2. Craving: Following a trigger, you...
Turning Wounds into Wisdom
This article is about "the shadow" which is from Jungian theory. The concept of the ‘shadow’ in psychology involves recognising and integrating the parts of ourselves that we have repressed or denied. These hidden aspects often stem from childhood experiences, cultural and religious conditioning...
Anger
I have learned, from working with hundreds of people all over the world, that they are angry and often they don’t know they are angry. This is because the anger has been disowned as a child, or at any age, possibly as a result of trauma, maybe you were not allowed to display anger growing...
Resentment
Resentment is a form of anger. It is personal because someone hurt you personally. You felt unsafe because your personal boundaries were not respected. The person responsible for making you unsafe by their actions is the perpetrator. Resentment is holding on to anger. Holding on to anger, Buddha...
Understanding Consent in the Context of Vulnerability
Vulnerable adults, including those with disabilities, mental health conditions, or cognitive impairments, may face unique challenges when it comes to giving consent in various situations, including medical treatment, personal care and intimate relationships. Understanding how to navigate consent...
Abuse in various forms
Forms of abuse encompass a range of behaviours aimed at exerting power and control over another person. Some common forms include: 1. Physical Abuse: Involves causing bodily harm or injury through actions like hitting, punching, or restraining. 2. Emotional/Verbal Abuse: Involves using words,...
Sleep Problems
Difficulty falling and staying asleep, also known as insomnia, is a common sleep disorder that can have a significant impact on overall health and well-being. There are many potential causes of insomnia, ranging from stress and lifestyle factors to underlying medical conditions. Here are some...
Emotions
People I work with have often been unable to connect with emotions, sometimes fearing them and ashamed of having feelings, never mind talking to someone about them. Understanding emotions are not only safe to feel, but also necessary to be a healthy human being and to feel validated in your life....