Ignore that sad, scared child at your peril

Oh no, not that corker! Going into childhood and feelings, I hear you groan. Every single human has a child within. The child within feels sad, lost, lonely, angry, scared. The child is you, halted in time, in the process that is your life. There was an event in your...

Has your religion impacted your self esteem?

In this article I attempt to help you see that your upbringing is highly likely to have informed how you feel about yourself today. It is impossible for it not to have. I am interested (in the work I do), about just how many people struggle with low self esteem and I...

Relationship: Do you love yourself enough?

This short article is a snippet from a case study, which I hope to provide insight into common beliefs. What do you believe about yourself that you are taking into your relationships? For this example, it was a man and a woman. Where do your beliefs come from? Loving...

Addiction cycle and the therapeutic relationship

The addiction cycle 1. Trigger: This phase represents the events, emotions, or situations that trigger the urge to use substances. Triggers can include stress, trauma, peer pressure or environmental cues, being around others using and remembering the high. 2. Craving:...

Anger

I have learned, from working with hundreds of people all over the world, that they are angry and often they don’t know they are angry.  This is because the anger has been disowned as a child, or at any age, possibly as a result of trauma, maybe you were not...

Resentment

Resentment is a form of anger. It is personal because someone hurt you personally.  You felt unsafe because your personal boundaries were not respected.  The person responsible for making you unsafe by their actions is the perpetrator. Resentment is holding...