(5 minutes reading time) When Letting Go Feels Like a Loss: The Hidden Self-Sabotage of Staying Connected Many of us stay loyal to people or systems that once offered us a lifeline — even when those connections now cost us our peace, our truth, and our wellbeing. If...
Shame often feels like the enemy, but for many of us — especially those who grew up needing to stay small, safe, or pleasing — shame was actually a kind of protection. It helped you survive situations where being fully yourself might have led to rejection, punishment,...
For many survivors of abuse, the most painful betrayal isn’t always the act of harm itself — it’s the silence that surrounds it. The minimising, the denial, the subtle (or not-so-subtle) pressure to move on, to forgive, to keep the family together. Often, that...
In trauma-informed counseling, it is common to explore how individuals unconsciously split aspects of the self into different “parts” in order to survive overwhelming experiences. This is particularly true in clients with histories of domestic abuse (DA) or Childhood...
(5 minutes read time) Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. (1938–2012), best known for her powerful book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, spoke to something many of us sense deep down but struggle to live out. For those trapped in the fawn response—those who’ve learned to survive by...
(5 minutes read time) “You’re lucky women want equality and not revenge,” is often attributed to Kimberly Jones, a writer and activist. It was part of a response to the tragic murder of twins Samyia and Samayah Jones. The quote was...
