Shame often feels like the enemy, but for many of us — especially those who grew up needing to stay small, safe, or pleasing — shame was actually a kind of protection. It helped you survive situations where being fully yourself might have led to rejection, punishment,...
In trauma-informed counseling, it is common to explore how individuals unconsciously split aspects of the self into different “parts” in order to survive overwhelming experiences. This is particularly true in clients with histories of domestic abuse (DA) or Childhood...
(5 minutes read time) (Trigger warning: Alchohol abuse, domestic abuse, sexual abuse and sexual violence and suicide combined DUI). As a counsellor and hypnotherapist, I’ve worked for years with clients navigating trauma, dissociation, and inner fragmentation. I...
(5 minutes reading time) This article was inspired by Ricky Gervais.He said: “I will never stop making my voice heard, because they can’t.” Gervais was talking about animals.And it struck me—This is true of our children too. So many of them couldn’t speak, weren’t...
(5 minutes read time) Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. (1938–2012), best known for her powerful book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, spoke to something many of us sense deep down but struggle to live out. For those trapped in the fawn response—those who’ve learned to survive by...
